Hey ya'll, so I have a tendency to make comments about love, OFTEN! Mainly because I will admit that as much as relationships and I do not get along, I am a hopeless romantic at heart and I do eventually want love to be gifted to me. I know I would be good in love and when that day comes I think whoever my partner is would be good in love too.
Well this post is about love, but more about the risks we take when we love, and I think deeper than that it is about the fear that we have about love. And by we, I mean Black people. When we think of the Black Family, it's not the traditional white picket fence, two people in love that society will have us to believe. The majority of our young brothers are locked up, dead or just no where to be found. So when we see a strong couple like Will & Jada or Barack & Michelle, we have hope in what our lives can be like. Recently a rumor took to the media waves about Will & Jada splitting up. It caused an uproar in many media outlets, and caused a lot of people to comment on it. Including Will's son Trey. Some people were getting annoyed with all of the news surrounding the couple, so I wanted to share a little bit of the perspective of why it was such an important piece of our community.
Black love has been something very different then the norm, I guess- for lack of a better word. We are one community, when pain is felt by one of us, we all feel it, when success is gained by one of us, we all live it. So when a rumor tries to fracture the joy that we all feel when we look at a couple like Will & Jada- who teach us how to love, how to be loved and how to raise a strong Black family in love, it makes us all get a little worried that our hope will be dashed. We put our support into those magical couples that teach us lessons in love everyday, because we want to preserve that hope. When this hope is being tainted, it makes us fear that our chances at that magic are going to be diminished.
So when rumors start to spill out that Will & Jada are on the rocks, the community goes crazy, because for us, that means we run the risk of losing the dream as well. I don't know if I would have gotten into the uproar, but I do know that it is something that got me to take a closer look, wanting to check the headlines to see if these rumors were confirmed.
But now, all I am going to do is pray, pray for the dream that I have that I will have a magical love like that, and that my Black love will be something that the community wants to preserve and cherish and make their own.
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Sunday, August 14, 2011
Hey ya'll sorry it has been so long
It's been hard trying to find the words to write to make sense of this crazy world we live in, to make sense of the life we live and the moments we share with others and by ourselves. Well where do I start. I fell in love, got my heart broken and now I'm putting back the pieces of my life. Can you really fall in love with a person who doesn't know it, and if they don't know it, can they really break your heart?
I turned 26! And in the last year I have been able to gather so much strength and courage to take my life back from situations I didn't think I would be able to. I fought back from the pained story of my past- a childhood abduction. I fought back from the broken marriage of my parents, the deaths of loved ones. My life is finally mine to claim, something that I get proud of more and more everyday. I love that I get to wake up in the morning with quite possibly the coolest person in the world- me! It took me a while to stand on my own, moving across the country from one of the only places I can truly call home. To starting school and doing this whole thing by myself, to helping to guide my family and friends through my love and through my life. I pushed through an earthquake which I owe so much for helping me to find my way back to a more solid me. I am thankful for meeting Rachel Nielsen, an amazing woman and friend who helped to guide me through my pain and find a strength that I knew was there, but didn't know was mine.
So here I am 26 and so happy to be alive. Here is to another 26 years of happiness and joy, and here is to at least another year of you all reading my notes to myself and getting a glimpse into my life. Lucas Scott on One Tree Hill once said- "Have you ever wondered what marks our time here? If one life can really make an impact on the world? Or if the choices we make matter? I believe they do. And I believe that one man can change many lives... for better or worse!" To be honest, I hope that my one life can really make an impact on the world... I don't do the things I do, or make the choices I make to better myself, I do them because I want the life I lead to make a difference for the young person who reads this blog, who has a story like mine and thinks they don't have the strength to continue to grow up. People, particularly my mother question my need to put my life out there for the world to see. But I stand true to this belief that my life's story is worth telling, that the mess that I have gone through, that the strength I have been able to find in the last few years has brought me to this place, not so that I could be timid, but so that I could actually make a difference for someone else. We only have this one life, at the end of it all I want people to look back on mine and be proud of the way I lived it. And to be better people because of it.
With love! Keesha
#PGS
I turned 26! And in the last year I have been able to gather so much strength and courage to take my life back from situations I didn't think I would be able to. I fought back from the pained story of my past- a childhood abduction. I fought back from the broken marriage of my parents, the deaths of loved ones. My life is finally mine to claim, something that I get proud of more and more everyday. I love that I get to wake up in the morning with quite possibly the coolest person in the world- me! It took me a while to stand on my own, moving across the country from one of the only places I can truly call home. To starting school and doing this whole thing by myself, to helping to guide my family and friends through my love and through my life. I pushed through an earthquake which I owe so much for helping me to find my way back to a more solid me. I am thankful for meeting Rachel Nielsen, an amazing woman and friend who helped to guide me through my pain and find a strength that I knew was there, but didn't know was mine.
So here I am 26 and so happy to be alive. Here is to another 26 years of happiness and joy, and here is to at least another year of you all reading my notes to myself and getting a glimpse into my life. Lucas Scott on One Tree Hill once said- "Have you ever wondered what marks our time here? If one life can really make an impact on the world? Or if the choices we make matter? I believe they do. And I believe that one man can change many lives... for better or worse!" To be honest, I hope that my one life can really make an impact on the world... I don't do the things I do, or make the choices I make to better myself, I do them because I want the life I lead to make a difference for the young person who reads this blog, who has a story like mine and thinks they don't have the strength to continue to grow up. People, particularly my mother question my need to put my life out there for the world to see. But I stand true to this belief that my life's story is worth telling, that the mess that I have gone through, that the strength I have been able to find in the last few years has brought me to this place, not so that I could be timid, but so that I could actually make a difference for someone else. We only have this one life, at the end of it all I want people to look back on mine and be proud of the way I lived it. And to be better people because of it.
With love! Keesha
#PGS
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