Hey Y'all:
So I was reading a little bit from Mandy Hale's The Single Woman: Life, Love and a Dash of Sass . Now I was only reading a little bit because I really wanted to read the book and I saw it in a bookstore so I got through the first section (don't ask why I didn't buy it- that's another story). But I loved what I read. And my current phase of life I am blessed that there is a book like hers out there.
But the reason for this post is because Mandy in her book notes that we need to be able to celebrate our singleness and not feel like we need a relationship to make us feel like we made it or that it makes us us, but that the relationship actually compliments what and who we already are.
This spoke a lot to me especially currently. As we speak (4/25/2015) I am in Nashville. I just finished my FIFTH Half Marathon and I took the trip by myself. I had friends and even others running the race, ask me, "who are you going with." And then I get the puzzled look and the question, "Really?"
Why is that such a thing? Yes, I came by myself. I paid for my flight, I got my hotel and I paid for my ticket on my own. Why do I need a bodyguard or entourage to travel with. This country is beautiful and it needs to be explored and while I would love to have someone to enjoy it with, I don't need anyone but myself to celebrate the life I have and the experience that I am living in. Only in my singleness can I pick up and go visit a new city without having to check-in or see if my significant other wants to come along.
And furthermore, I think the question irritates me merely for being a woman. Guys can travel by themselves and no one would think otherwise, so why can't I do the same? Is it that out of the ordinary for a woman to do so?
I would like to thank my father of my independence, for teaching me to enjoy the cities that I visit and to enjoy the moment. I will say that it really is in these mini vacations that I am truly enjoying what is around me. I live in a world that is go, go, go. And by traveling in my quiet. I get to take stock of what I would normally rush through!
So here is me, Keesha in all of my singleness!
xoxoxoxo
